Estate planning for women requires a certain sensitivity. Women typically fail to take active roles in planning their estates and need to be educated about its importance. Estate planning workshops generally present women as “surviving spouses.” Conversely, planners are told, “The wife makes the decisions.” Techniques focus on the nuclear long-term marriage with children, but in reality that model is waning. Consequently, women are more likely to become key clients and require sensitivity to their situational needs.
While unique, a woman can be in one of three basic groups—married, single, and previously married. Estate counseling should address a relevant group’s concerns. There are also considerations affecting women regardless of group, such as those of professional women, including women business owners.
Married Women Should Participate
Married women include those who have remarried. They need active involvement in planning although many, especially first wives, rely on their husbands to plan. Sometimes a husband presents without his wife because he handles the finances. Planning should not be commenced until both participate. Today’s wife has good odds of becoming a previously married woman and should be informed about financial matters in any event. She will likely live with the results of (or lack of) financial, retirement and estate planning decisions. Planning should address children’s expenses, which often are otherwise paid for out of spousal support. Planners should always include wives in planning.
Single Women Need Thoughtful Planning
Single women include those never or not yet married, as well as previously married women and those in unmarried relationships. Many are single parents, many working, some on government assistance, and/or caring for elderly parents. Their issues include children’s guardians, parents’ caregivers, possibly pets, and continuing care of dependents at disability or death. Single women encompass a broad spectrum of women who need, at the least, wills and durable powers of attorney for financial matters and healthcare; many require extra attention as they struggle on their own.
Previously Married Women Are Rebuilding Their Lives
Previously married women include homemakers displaced after traumatic divorces, and grieving widows. These women are rebuilding their lives. Previously married women who participated in planning while married have an advantage in that they were exposed to its importance and principles.
Knowledgeable widows can continue plans. Women who did not participate need education on the planning process and implications. These women should address continuing care for children and other loved ones. For example, while the court favors the biological father as guardian, it must consider the mother’s desires in determining the children’s best interests. Planners should watch for often raw emotions in these circumstances.
Plan For The Unique Needs Of All Women
There are matters affecting all women regardless of group. Because women live five to seven years longer than men, they need additional retirement planning. Young women should begin retirement planning early to mitigate lower employer provided benefits. Since women earn about three-fourths of what men earn for the same work, many women, especially married women, often forego retirement plan contributions to get current income. In addition, their pensions and social security benefits suffer from family-related career interruptions for children and elderly parents.
Women in professions with high litigation risks like medicine, law and real estate, need asset protection planning. Planners should be aware that professional women, while shrewd, may not understand estate planning and need guidance.
Women business owners, a rapidly growing sector, need business succession planning. In 2005, U.S. women owned almost half of United States businesses, employed 12 to 20 million people and had two to three trillion in sales.
However, women are less likely than men to appreciate estate tax effects on their businesses and many are underinsured. (See Life and Health Financial Services Edition (08/26/03).
Because women often harbor charitable passions, consider philanthropy when planning for women. Marilyn Monroe neglected planning for her charitable desires; as a result, a stranger, her teacher’s widow, inherited Marilyn’s estate.
Weave Women’s Intricate Facets Into Planning
Women’s unique situations necessitate thoughtful estate planning for retirement, long-term healthcare, children’s care and education, and parental dependence, as well as asset protection, philanthropy, and other relevant issues. Such planning should be sensitively approached through the lens of women’s challenging circumstances.



Despite the changing circumstances in our workplace over the past several years, women typically do have more to worry about when it comes to retirement and yet often are the least prepared for it. While women should be better educated to prepare for their retirement, I also believe we should be promoting changes which will adapt our system to the changing lifestyle of the 21st century. In the Family Policy Center at the National Center for Policy Analysis we propose a more flexible and portable benefit system so that women will be better prepared for their future retirement.
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